Monga amayi, ntchito ya abambo ndi yovuta komanso nthawi zina yokhumudwitsa, yolera ana. Komabe, mosiyana ndi amayi, abambo nthawi zambiri salandira ulemu wokwanira chifukwa cha udindo wawo m'miyoyo yathu.
Ndi opereka kukumbatirana, ofalitsa nthabwala zoipa komanso opha tizilombo. Abambo amatilimbikitsa pamene tili pamlingo wapamwamba ndipo amatiphunzitsa momwe tingagonjetsere vuto lotsika kwambiri.
Abambo anatiphunzitsa momwe tingasewerere mpira wa baseball kapena kusewera mpira. Tikayendetsa galimoto, ankatibweretsera matayala athu ophwanyika ndi mabowo kusitolo chifukwa sitinkadziwa kuti tayala lathu laphwanyika ndipo tinkangoganiza kuti pali vuto ndi chiwongolero (pepani abambo).
Chaka chino, Greeley Tribune ikupereka ulemu kwa abambo osiyanasiyana mdera lathu powauza nkhani ndi zokumana nazo za abambo awo.
Tili ndi abambo aakazi, abambo a apolisi, abambo osakwatiwa, abambo olera ana, abambo opeza, abambo ozimitsa moto, abambo akuluakulu, abambo a anyamata, ndi abambo achichepere.
Ngakhale aliyense ndi bambo, aliyense ali ndi nkhani yakeyake komanso malingaliro ake pa zomwe ambiri a iwo amatcha "ntchito yabwino kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi".
Tinalandira mndandanda wambiri wokhudza nkhaniyi kuchokera kumudzi, ndipo mwatsoka, sitinathe kulemba mayina a abambo onse. The Tribune ikuyembekeza kusintha nkhaniyi kukhala chochitika chapachaka kuti tithe kufotokoza nkhani zambiri za abambo mdera lathu. Chifukwa chake chonde kumbukirani abambo awa chaka chamawa, chifukwa tikufuna kutha kufotokoza nkhani zawo.
Kwa zaka zambiri, Mike Peters wakhala mtolankhani wa nyuzipepalayi kuti adziwitse anthu ammudzi wa Greeley ndi Weld County za umbanda, apolisi, ndi zina zofunika. Akupitiriza kulemba nkhani za Tribune, amagawana maganizo ake mu "Rough Trombone" Loweruka lililonse, ndipo amalemba malipoti akale a nkhani ya "Zaka 100 Zapita".
Ngakhale kuti kutchuka m'derali ndi kwabwino kwa atolankhani, kungakhale kokhumudwitsa pang'ono kwa ana awo.
“Ngati palibe amene akunena kuti, ‘O, ndiwe mwana wa Mike Peters,’ sungapite kulikonse,” anawonjezera Vanessa Peters-Leonard akumwetulira. “Aliyense amadziwa bambo anga. Zimakhala bwino anthu akamawadziwa.”
Mick anati: “Ndiyenera kugwira ntchito ndi abambo nthawi zambiri, kucheza pakati pa mzinda, ndi kubwerera pamene zinthu zili bwino.” “Ndiyenera kukumana ndi gulu la anthu. N’zosangalatsa. Abambo ali m’manyuzipepala kuti amakumana ndi anthu amitundu yonse. Chimodzi mwa zinthu.”
Mbiri yabwino ya Mike Peters monga mtolankhani inakhudza kwambiri kukula kwa Mick ndi Vanessa.
“Ngati ndaphunzirapo kanthu kuchokera kwa abambo anga, ndi chikondi ndi umphumphu,” anafotokoza Vanessa. “Kuyambira ntchito yake mpaka banja lake ndi mabwenzi ake, uyu ndiye iyeyo. Anthu amamukhulupirira chifukwa cha umphumphu wake wolemba, ubale wake ndi anthu, komanso kuwachitira zinthu zomwe aliyense amafuna kuti ena azichitiridwa.”
Mick anati kuleza mtima ndi kumvetsera ena ndi zinthu ziwiri zofunika kwambiri zomwe anaphunzira kuchokera kwa abambo ake.
“Muyenera kukhala oleza mtima, muyenera kumvetsera,” anatero Mick. “Ndi m’modzi mwa anthu oleza mtima kwambiri omwe ndimawadziwa. Ndikuphunzirabe kukhala oleza mtima komanso kumvetsera. Zimatenga moyo wonse, koma wadziwa bwino.”
Chinanso chimene ana a Peters anaphunzira kuchokera kwa abambo awo ndi amayi awo ndicho chomwe chimapangitsa ukwati ndi ubale wabwino.
"Adakali ndi ubwenzi wolimba kwambiri, ubale wolimba kwambiri. Amamulemberabe makalata achikondi," adatero Vanessa. "Ndi chinthu chaching'ono kwambiri, ngakhale ndili wamkulu, ndimachiyang'ana ndikuganiza kuti umu ndi momwe ukwati uyenera kukhalira."
Kaya ana anu ali ndi zaka zingati, nthawi zonse mudzakhala makolo awo, koma kwa banja la a Peters, pamene Vanessa ndi Mick akukula, ubalewu uli ngati ubwenzi.
Atakhala pa sofa ndikuyang'ana Vanessa ndi Mick, n'zosavuta kuona kunyada, chikondi, ndi ulemu zomwe Mike Peters ali nazo pa ana ake awiri akuluakulu komanso anthu omwe akhalapo.
“Tili ndi banja labwino kwambiri komanso banja lachikondi,” Mike Peters anatero ndi mawu ake ofewa. “Ndili wonyada kwambiri nawo.”
Ngakhale kuti Vanessa ndi Mick angathe kulemba zinthu zambiri zomwe aphunzira kuchokera kwa abambo awo kwa zaka zambiri, kwa bambo watsopano Tommy Dyer, ana ake awiri ndi aphunzitsi ndipo iye ndi wophunzira.
Tommy Dyer ndi mwiniwake wa Brix Brew and Tap. Ili pa 8th St. 813, Tommy Dyer ndi bambo wa atsikana awiri okongola a blonde - Lyon wazaka 3 1/2 ndi Lucy wa miyezi 8.
“Titakhala ndi mwana wamwamuna, tinayambanso bizinesi iyi, choncho ndinayika ndalama zambiri pa nthawi imodzi,” anatero Dell. “Chaka choyamba chinali chovuta kwambiri. Zinatenga nthawi yayitali kuti ndizolowere kukhala bambo anga. Sindinamve ngati bambo mpaka (Lucy) atabadwa.”
Dale atabereka mwana wake wamkazi wamng'ono, malingaliro ake pa nkhani ya kukhala bambo anasintha. Ponena za Lucy, kulimbana kwake koopsa ndi kupikisana ndi Lyon ndi chinthu chomwe amaganizira kawiri.
"Ndimamva ngati woteteza. Ndikukhulupirira kuti ndidzakhala mwamuna m'moyo wake asanakwatiwe," adatero akukumbatira mwana wake wamkazi.
Popeza Dell ndi kholo la ana awiri omwe amaona ndi kukhudzidwa ndi chilichonse, anaphunzira mwamsanga kukhala woleza mtima komanso kusamala mawu ndi zochita zake.
"Chilichonse ching'ono chimawakhudza, kotero muyenera kuonetsetsa kuti mwanena zinthu zoyenera pafupi nawo," adatero Dell. "Ndi ziponji zazing'ono, kotero mawu ndi zochita zanu ndizofunikira."
Chinthu chimodzi chomwe Dyer amakonda kuona ndi momwe umunthu wa Leon ndi Lucy umakulirakulira komanso momwe alili osiyana.
“Leon ndi munthu waukhondo, ndipo ndi munthu wosokonezeka komanso wathupi lonse,” iye anatero. “N’zoseketsa kwambiri.”
“Kunena zoona, amagwira ntchito mwakhama,” iye anatero. “Pali masiku ambiri omwe sindimakhala panyumba. Koma ndi bwino kukhala nawo m’mawa ndikukhalabe ndi mgwirizano umenewu. Uku ndi kuyesetsa kwa mwamuna ndi mkazi, ndipo sindingathe kuchita popanda iye.”
Atafunsidwa kuti angapereke upangiri wotani kwa abambo ena atsopano, Dale anati bambo si chinthu chomwe mungakonzekere. Zinachitika kuti, "mumasintha ndikupeza bwino".
“Palibe buku kapena chilichonse chomwe mungawerenge,” iye anatero. “Aliyense ndi wosiyana ndipo zinthu zidzamuyendera mosiyana. Choncho upangiri wanga ndi wakuti mukhulupirire zomwe mumachita komanso kuti banja lanu ndi anzanu azikhala nanu pafupi.”
N'zovuta kukhala kholo. Amayi osakwatiwa ndi ovuta kwambiri. Koma kukhala kholo lokha la mwana wa mwamuna kapena mkazi kungakhale ntchito yovuta kwambiri.
Wokhala ku Greeley, Cory Hill, ndi mwana wake wamkazi wazaka 12, Ariana, akwanitsa kuthana ndi vuto lokhala kholo lokha, osanenapo za kukhala bambo wa mtsikana yekha. Hill anapatsidwa udindo wolera ana pamene Ariane anali ndi zaka pafupifupi zitatu.
“Ndili bambo wachinyamata;” Ndinamubereka ndili ndi zaka 20. Monga maanja ambiri achichepere, sitinkachita masewera olimbitsa thupi pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana,” Hill anafotokoza. “Amayi ake sali pamalo omwe angamupatse chisamaliro chomwe akufunikira, choncho ndi bwino kuti ndimulole kuti azigwira ntchito nthawi zonse. Zimakhalabe choncho.”
Udindo wokhala bambo wa mwana wakhanda unathandiza Hill kukula msanga, ndipo anayamikira mwana wake wamkazi chifukwa “chomusunga woona mtima komanso kumusunga tcheru”.
“Ndikanakhala kuti sindinali ndi udindo umenewo, ndikanatha kupita patsogolo ndi iye m’moyo wanga,” iye anatero. “Ndikuganiza kuti ichi ndi chinthu chabwino komanso dalitso kwa tonsefe.”
Popeza anakulira ndi mchimwene wake mmodzi yekha komanso wopanda mlongo woti amutchule, Hill ayenera kuphunzira zonse zokhudza kulera mwana wake wamkazi yekha.
"Pamene akukula, ndi njira yophunzirira. Tsopano ali muunyamata, ndipo pali zinthu zambiri zomwe sindikudziwa momwe ndingachitire nazo kapena momwe ndingachitire. Kusintha kwa thupi, kuphatikiza kusintha kwa malingaliro komwe palibe aliyense wa ife amene adakumana nako," adatero Hill akumwetulira. "Iyi ndi nthawi yoyamba kwa tonsefe, ndipo ingapangitse zinthu kukhala bwino. Ine sindiri katswiri pankhaniyi - ndipo sindinanene kuti ndine katswiri."
Mavuto monga kusamba, ma bra ndi mavuto ena okhudzana ndi akazi akabuka, Hill ndi Ariana amagwira ntchito limodzi kuti awathetse, kufufuza zinthu komanso kulankhula ndi anzawo achikazi komanso abale awo.
"Ali ndi mwayi wokhala ndi aphunzitsi abwino kwambiri kusukulu ya pulayimale, ndipo iye ndi aphunzitsi omwe ali ndi mgwirizano weniweni adamuteteza ndikupereka udindo wa amayi," adatero Hill. "Ndikuganiza kuti zimathandiza kwambiri. Akuganiza kuti pali akazi omwe ali pafupi naye omwe angapeze zomwe ine sindingathe kupereka."
Mavuto ena omwe Hill amakumana nawo monga kholo lokha ndi monga kusatha kupita kulikonse nthawi imodzi, kukhala yekha amene amapanga zisankho komanso amene amasamalira banja lake.
"Mumakakamizidwa kupanga chisankho chanu. Mulibe lingaliro lachiwiri loletsa kapena kuthandiza kuthetsa vutoli," adatero Hill. "Nthawi zonse zimakhala zovuta, ndipo zidzawonjezera nkhawa, chifukwa ngati sindingathe kulera bwino mwana uyu, zonse zili m'manja mwanga."
Hill apereka upangiri kwa makolo ena osakwatira, makamaka abambo omwe apeza kuti ndi makolo osakwatira, kuti muyenera kupeza njira yothetsera vutoli ndikulichita pang'onopang'ono.
"Nditangolandira Ariana koyamba, ndinali wotanganidwa ndi ntchito; ndinalibe ndalama; ndinayenera kubwereka ndalama kuti ndibwereke nyumba. Tinavutika kwa kanthawi," anatero Hill. "Izi n'zosamveka. Sindinkaganiza kuti tingapambane kapena kufika pano, koma tsopano tili ndi nyumba yokongola, bizinesi yoyendetsedwa bwino. N'zosamveka kuti muli ndi mwayi wochuluka bwanji pamene simukudziwa. Pamwamba."
Atakhala mu lesitilanti ya banjali ya The Bricktop Grill, Anderson anamwetulira, ngakhale kuti maso ake anali odzaza ndi misozi, pamene anayamba kulankhula za Kelsey.
"Abambo anga enieni sali m'moyo wanga konse. Saimba foni; safufuza, palibe chilichonse, kotero sindimawaona ngati abambo anga," adatero Anderson. "Ndili ndi zaka zitatu, ndinafunsa Kelsey ngati akufuna kukhala bambo anga, ndipo anati inde. Ankachita zinthu zambiri. Nthawi zonse amakhala naye pafupi, zomwe ndizofunikira kwambiri kwa ine."
“Ndili kusukulu ya pulayimale komanso chaka changa choyamba ndi chachiwiri, ankandiuza za sukulu ndi kufunika kwa sukulu,” iye anatero. “Ndinkaganiza kuti akufuna kungondilera, koma ndinaphunzira nditalephera makalasi angapo.”
Ngakhale Anderson adatenga makalasi pa intaneti chifukwa cha mliriwu, adakumbukira kuti Kelsey adamupempha kuti adzuke m'mawa kwambiri kuti akonzekere sukulu, ngati kuti amapita ku kalasi yekha.
"Pali nthawi yokwanira yokonzekera, kotero tikhoza kumaliza ntchito ya kusukulu ndikukhala olimbikitsidwa," adatero Anderson.